Bring on all your alcohol-induced make out sessions
We’ve all heard the story of a “straight” woman who gets wasted at some party and ends up making out with another woman. Maybe they go further than making out, doesn’t really matter.
These women wouldn’t ordinarily hook up with someone of the same sex outside of alcohol and drugs, they’ve only ever dated men. But a few vodka-crans down and someone’s red lipstick has an alluring quality to it that they just have to try out.
The Katy Perry “I Kissed A Girl” girls of the world if you will.
They aren’t a myth, I know quite a few “straight” women who frequently engage in queer activity (almost always drunk or high) but cross the line at identifying as anything other than straight. I’ve hooked up with them too.
As someone who is part of the LGBTQ community, I’ve gotta say, I really don’t mind. I’m a 22-year-old bisexual woman (although that isn’t limited to just cisgender individuals) and I personally have no beef with women who are “bicurious” or occasionally experiment.
But within the community, there are a lot of conflicting and strong opinions about these “I Kissed A Girl” types.
Some people feel these women are inauthentic or that they are playing with other people’s emotions. Other people go as far as to label the “I Kissed A Girl” women as threats to LGBTQ progress and equality.
I’ve known people to use these “straight” women as rational to question other people’s orientation — “you’re not really bi/lesbian/queer, you’re no different than girls who drunkenly hook up with other women but are straight.” And then I’ve known queer folk to demonize these straight(?) women, blaming them for bi-erasure and systematic homophobia.
In my opinion, both are wrong.